After posting yesterday about the problems with waving people on to go while driving, I actually witnessed it again today.

I was at a 4-way intersection with a light, behind one other car. We were both going left, as most cars do here, but there is no turn light, so you have to wait patiently. Only one car was coming from the other direction and was clearly going to take a right as indicated by choice of lane and blinker. This is a tough situation at times, but in this case, if a car from the other direction is going to take the same turn as you, GO! Why? Because you’re already in the middle of the intersection and that car still has to decelerate in order to maneuver the turn correctly. There is plenty of time to go, but this person did not. Now here’s the funny part.

The car that was coming in the opposite direction, about to take a right, came to a stop and immediately began to wave the person on. It wasn’t a nice gentle wave though, it was a wild waving of the arm about 10 times. This lady, before even stopping, was already frustrated with the car in front of me for not going. She shook her arm frantically in the direction the car should have turned. What this crazy waver didn’t know was that another car was coming in the opposite direction and was continuing straight. So while the crazy lady did her thing, a car was coming and made it impossible for the other car turn take the turn.

I laughed out loud. It was fun to watch.


Courteous Disaster

May 11, 2009

One of the many things that really irritates me is when drivers hesitate to move after they have been waved on by a fellow driver. When I am at some form of intersection or light, and I give you a nice wave to roll along, you best get moving.

This has nothing to do with having the right of way. This only pertains to situations where there are no dangers to that person hitting the gas because in some cases you may be trying to be nice, but the other driver actually can’t go due to some traffic obstacle. Anyways..what’s the problem ?!


Whether I give you a nice swaying wave to one side, or the quick finger flips (meaning GO!), why do you decide not to? Why do you then shake your head, or decide to wave me to go? What the heck is wrong with you?! Are you trying to be nicer to me? Have you not reached your good deed quota for the day?

I don’t care if you decided you were going to let me go before we both came to a stop in our respective spots, if I wave you first, you go! You should go because by not hitting the gas pedal, you are causing problems. Too many times have I waved someone on, they don’t go, so I accelerate, and then they hit the gas too! Now we both stop short and the wave war continues.

This is why I am the aggressor when it comes to driving, I am cautious though; not reckless. I am well aware of the stupidity that travels the roads. In any instance where there is uncertainty as to which driver should go, I will go; quickly. I do this because I have the general knowledge that no one wants to hit me. Instead of doing a little stop and go dance in the middle of a busy intersection, I am going to go, and you are going to watch me go, and wait your turn. No I am not saying I cut people off, but if you do not take the initiative to take your path, I will. If you are unsure if you should keep going, slow down, stop, or speed up, I WILL make the decision for you.

If I give you any gesture that suggests I am letting you go before me, accept it. Put your foot on the pedal and move along. If you’re too slow to realize I am giving you permission to move forth, or if you for some idiotic reason decide to wave me on instead, I will go. I won’t give it a second thought, I will just go. But as I pass you, I will be sure to give you a look similar to one that your parents would give you in utter disbelief as you played in a thunderstorm pretending to be the Tin Man from The Wizard of Oz.

Handshake Dilemma

May 9, 2009

We all know that handshakes are important when meeting new people, networking, on a job interview, etc.; it’s a key part to your introduction to a person. It’s a good indication of the confidence in a person and all things related. I’m not here to talk about the importance of a handshake or it’s germ-spreading ways, rather the awkwardness that may ensue with poor handshake coordination between two people. There will be a series of these posts – this is the first.
Yesterday at work I shook hands with a very important person in the company that I work for. Considering his highly held position, he has great respect for those far lower than him, and treats everyone as a friend. He actually played paintball with me and my friends last year for my birthday. We have a good work relationship and despite the casualness of it, I know to treat him with the respect he deserves. Make a short story shorter, I make sure to give a strong, firm handshake along with eye contact upon meeting with him. Granted, I shake hands firmly with everyone I meet (I have a major disliking for weak hand shakers).

Anyways, I realize now that I’m making this far longer than it needs to be. We shook hands, and after about half a second, he seemed to realize that I hold pretty firmly. This is when he decided to make is grip stronger as well. However, while he made this decision, I had already decided that the hand shake was about over, so I loosened up. I felt this was kind of weird, and it has happened in the past.

My advice: Always have a strong hand shake. Don’t be quick to end the handshake, let it be a mutual end. Try to remember the strength of grips in people you meet with frequently, so no adjustment is needed mid handshake.